Confidence is one of those concepts that is ever transformative. It's abstract and not necessarily quantifiable. In any instance, confidence is innate. Before you look outwards to build confidence, know that true confidence is found from building on what already exists internally. Think back to a time where you felt least confident. What things were told to you, or what did you tell yourself? Usually in those instances, we are utilizing external sources as the foundation for our confidence. With that, your power becomes contingent upon reassurance, approval, all of which leans on being dependent on others for your confidence. Whether it be something told to you at that moment, or something told to you that you internalized and applied to future scenarios, know that those external sources are just that. To build confidence, you need to know yourself wholly, on all fronts, including the positive and negative. Your positives should always be encouraged and promoted, as this speaks to the essence of your most unadulterated self. Your negatives should always be acknowledged and worked on, ultimately aligning with the positive in you. Try your best not to punish the negatives in you, but instead complete a self reality check to address and correct. When external sources are used as the standard/meter for when/how we should be confident, we relinquish a power distinct to us; that power can then be toyed with by forces that may not mean us well. When your objectively negative traits are pointed out, your confidence should stand in it, acknowledging your awareness of it and ability to correct it. When your objectively positive traits are pointed out, your confidence should stand it, acknowledging your awareness of it and ability to enhance and grow them. Confidence is also knowing that we all have the right to be confident, and that your confidence should never impede on another's in order for it to be true. That isn't to say you should be timid about this power, on the contrary. You should absolutely stand and continue to exude your highest qualities. When I say "impede on another's", I'm speaking on times where you might build faux confidence via avenues of narcissism or materialism. Your confidence should not be contingent upon comparison between you or others, that includes explicitly labeling yourself better or less than another. Some days you may not feel as confident as the day before, and that's perfectly okay. To be confident is to love yourself and to stay true to you through it all, especially far removed from external forces.
Never discredit the power you hold within you.
Stay
CONFIDENT | unique | eclectic
Take the cue.
-Susie Cue